In many ways the town, and the neighborhood, that I grew up in, were ten years behind the times, in the best ways. It helped that we lived in the house my mom grew up in. My own family is part of the move-to-another-town-for-a-job world, and suffers the resulting lack of intergenerational/geographic *context*.
"Side-parents" :) yeah. And even so, my friends' parents were very hands-off. Barely saw them except for the occasional offer of a snack. But my own parents (rightly) trusted them not to be creeps, or to have drugs in the house, or to be watching explicit movies with kids around. Safe. That's all that was required.
I have zero neighbors I'd place in this category-- intact homes with a mom and a dad are nonexistent here. It's all single moms, kids being raised by grandparents, and houses where you can't even tell who the parents are because of the rotating merry-go-round of unfamiliar adults cycling in and out of the household. Significant number of kids with obvious behavior problems. I can't tell if this is a function of our income (we live on a single income, so we live in a single-income sort of neighborhood... but in our tax bracket, single-income homes are nearly all single-parent homes), or just the new normal. Both, I think.
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Date: 2023-06-21 04:00 pm (UTC)"Side-parents" :) yeah. And even so, my friends' parents were very hands-off. Barely saw them except for the occasional offer of a snack. But my own parents (rightly) trusted them not to be creeps, or to have drugs in the house, or to be watching explicit movies with kids around. Safe. That's all that was required.
I have zero neighbors I'd place in this category-- intact homes with a mom and a dad are nonexistent here. It's all single moms, kids being raised by grandparents, and houses where you can't even tell who the parents are because of the rotating merry-go-round of unfamiliar adults cycling in and out of the household. Significant number of kids with obvious behavior problems. I can't tell if this is a function of our income (we live on a single income, so we live in a single-income sort of neighborhood... but in our tax bracket, single-income homes are nearly all single-parent homes), or just the new normal. Both, I think.