I saw this before my OB appointment today and I'm very glad I did. My last two appointments, I had tried to plan how to handle the vaccine discussion with the high-risk OBs, and had asked the Ogham for advice. Both times (once with my regular doctor and once with a sub), the doctor didn't end up starting that discussion. This time, I went in without a plan, so of course this time he did ask...
It seemed that by now I had built up enough rapport with him that even though he was disappointed, he accepted my choice not to get any of the current covid vaccines. Which I think fits with this week's reading.
He still did a good job of making me feel bad for having disappointed him. I mean he went from cheerful to subdued, poor guy. His first reaction was "Oh *no*," and then he had a little moment of cognitive dissonance along the lines of, "You're super smart"... (Like thank you for the compliment but...is it gonna make you consider that I might actually be right? ;) My concern of course is that he may instead use this to mentally justify "She may be 'super smart,' but she still gets things wrong, so I shouldn't listen to her wishes in the future"...but we'll see.)
For hours after the appointment I felt bad and worried that our doctor-patient relationship would be harmed. But I feel OK now. Still contemplating whether or not to give him more details of my reasoning. I don't want to annoy him, or provoke more dissonance.
BTW...I had to laugh when I read "possible workaholism." We had postponed getting the baby's things ready since we have a history of past losses. It just made us superstitious. But now the baby has dropped so we're thinking s/he may be getting ready to come a bit early and we better step up the preparations. I guess we better pace ourselves this week!
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Date: 2021-12-29 02:09 am (UTC)I saw this before my OB appointment today and I'm very glad I did. My last two appointments, I had tried to plan how to handle the vaccine discussion with the high-risk OBs, and had asked the Ogham for advice. Both times (once with my regular doctor and once with a sub), the doctor didn't end up starting that discussion. This time, I went in without a plan, so of course this time he did ask...
It seemed that by now I had built up enough rapport with him that even though he was disappointed, he accepted my choice not to get any of the current covid vaccines. Which I think fits with this week's reading.
He still did a good job of making me feel bad for having disappointed him. I mean he went from cheerful to subdued, poor guy. His first reaction was "Oh *no*," and then he had a little moment of cognitive dissonance along the lines of, "You're super smart"... (Like thank you for the compliment but...is it gonna make you consider that I might actually be right? ;) My concern of course is that he may instead use this to mentally justify "She may be 'super smart,' but she still gets things wrong, so I shouldn't listen to her wishes in the future"...but we'll see.)
For hours after the appointment I felt bad and worried that our doctor-patient relationship would be harmed. But I feel OK now. Still contemplating whether or not to give him more details of my reasoning. I don't want to annoy him, or provoke more dissonance.
BTW...I had to laugh when I read "possible workaholism." We had postponed getting the baby's things ready since we have a history of past losses. It just made us superstitious. But now the baby has dropped so we're thinking s/he may be getting ready to come a bit early and we better step up the preparations. I guess we better pace ourselves this week!
Anyway, thanks again!