I will go out with her (if she gets back to me) and just be honest with her:
I will have as much fun as I can, but also communicate with her, as artfully as I can, my values, expectations, etc. I will listen to her side and have (if possible) constructive conversations and arguments with her about her values, etc.
I want her to have ample opportunity to know me and reject me, if she doesn't like what's in front of her. I will also carefully gage how open (and honest?) she's willing to be, and decide if I like her enough to see her a second time.
(I feel like I didn't do any of the above with my ex-wife. I was surprised that she gave me the time of day, and focused more on securing her than being aligned with who I was. I suspect she was doing something similar.)
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Date: 2025-03-09 01:04 am (UTC)I will go out with her (if she gets back to me) and just be honest with her:
I will have as much fun as I can, but also communicate with her, as artfully as I can, my values, expectations, etc. I will listen to her side and have (if possible) constructive conversations and arguments with her about her values, etc.
I want her to have ample opportunity to know me and reject me, if she doesn't like what's in front of her. I will also carefully gage how open (and honest?) she's willing to be, and decide if I like her enough to see her a second time.
(I feel like I didn't do any of the above with my ex-wife. I was surprised that she gave me the time of day, and focused more on securing her than being aligned with who I was. I suspect she was doing something similar.)
Does it sound like I have a good plan?