Hi Kimberly, Thank you for this. As a woman who has remained single and childless as I approach 60, I resonate with a lot of what you shared. A dear friend of mine shared with me that when she was dating in her 50s, she was looking for a man who had the capacity to be happy. She met and married a man with that capacity and now as he declines while she remains healthy (he's 10 years older), they remain happy together in spite of the challenges.
I particularly appreciated you sharing your capacity to focus on amplifying what's good about your partner. It reminds of JMG's constant reminder to focus on what we want and pay no attention to what we don't want, much harder in the close confines of a primary relationship.
This piece also reminded me of the importance of heartful praise and gratitude in any relationship. Not the manipulative kind. The heartfelt kind.
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Date: 2024-08-29 02:22 pm (UTC)Thank you for this. As a woman who has remained single and childless as I approach 60, I resonate with a lot of what you shared. A dear friend of mine shared with me that when she was dating in her 50s, she was looking for a man who had the capacity to be happy. She met and married a man with that capacity and now as he declines while she remains healthy (he's 10 years older), they remain happy together in spite of the challenges.
I particularly appreciated you sharing your capacity to focus on amplifying what's good about your partner. It reminds of JMG's constant reminder to focus on what we want and pay no attention to what we don't want, much harder in the close confines of a primary relationship.
This piece also reminded me of the importance of heartful praise and gratitude in any relationship. Not the manipulative kind. The heartfelt kind.