Destiny is tricky. I don't make my own destiny, but I do put myself on a trajectory with every choice, no matter how small. If destiny is a "web of fate", each human destiny is a single thread that decides whether to go right or left, up or down. Sometimes I am propelled by the direction I was previously going (inertia) and other times I fight. Sometimes I go backwards. Sometimes I charge ahead. There are outside factors opposing, helping, or indifferent to me to contend with, each with their own webs. Sometimes what looks like destiny is actually the psychology of previous investment because you're afraid to part with patterns already in place. That in itself is meant to serve as a lesson, I think, and it's entirely up to the individual whether or not they want to learn it in this incarnation. One affirmation I have found useful when you want to improve whatever nature has in store is to say "I am a better person today than I was yesterday, if only by the slightest bit." It's part affirmation and part promise to the gods to be braver, kinder, humbler, more generous, more diligent, more hardworking, and gentler than before, whether that is easy or like squeezing blood from a rock. As a result, the web that is spun is of stronger thread and seeks a direction in allegiance with the will of higher powers.

As for "What do I need to focus on?" The Ogham give me three cards.

The first card is You, and they give me Eadha or Limits well dignified. They are saying the best course of study for you is to know where you end and someone else (be they human, animal, vegetable, god, etc.) begins. Limits are not a bad thing despite our culture's fetish for limitlessness.

The second card is the Situation. They give me Ailm, or Transcendence well-dignified. You will be given help from the outside which will help you to transcend problems and bad situations. This help could be human or from non-corporeal beings or most likely a mixture of both.

The third card or the Lesson is Tinne, also well-dignified. Tinne is Defense. Resilience is a form of defense. A good defense always implies a balanced state of flexibility. For example, if I want to defend my home from hostile people, one of the most effective things I can do to increase my defense is to be friendly and helpful to everyone in my neighborhood. By helping them defend their homes from bad influences, they will in turn help me do the same. If I were "defensive" and got butthurt every time their dogs peed on my lawn or whatever, I would be weakening myself and my home.